All posts for the day August 10th, 2012

THOSE DAYS needs us

Published August 10, 2012 by aquahlekkergarla

Ever thought what you would do if you were to be forced to marry someone chosen for you???like it was done like that in the oldern days here in Africa and i think some tribes especially for the royal families¬† still do that today.Coming to think that falling in love comes spontaneously and when you are in love you know because your heart tells you that you are and its the little things that will attract you and people will think you are insane.It doesnt matter if that person has an ugly past,wheather he is rich or poor,ugly or cute,working or not,with children or without,you just look beyond the imperfecrtions and turn them to perfection.Just imagine that great feeling,and then boom….some random weird person is brought to you to marry because the family is rich or because he went to havard or whatever(rolling eyes)..You look at the person no part of you is moving inreaction to what you see,even when you try spend some days with that person convincing yourself that maybe he has a trait that will move you,still nada,That my friend should be a sign that he is some one else’s Adam not yours and you cant go against the universe when it warns you.What doesnt move you does move someone else like one man’s trash is another man’s treasure.Lets not push make things that are not working to work.I would just say “parents please its so not april (1 april) and grown up games are not part of my interests”(then walk away to blog about it lol).I find this cruel,giving your child away just like that?Knowing she is not happy?How did those parents live with themselves after giving away the child?or the spirit of guilt was not existing?GOSSSSH…

Our grannies had to learn to fall in love with each other.I dont know if they didnt have natural feeling to choose for them selves or they just gave up whatever feeling they had for the unchosen ones knowing there is no use in allowing yourself to feel things that wont manifest.Sometimes i just look back at how things were done in the oldern days and just be glad am a child of today…i have the choice to express my self and tell my parents..this is the guy i want to marry…you got that? am not asking for permision am just telling them.

Back then women did not have a say,they were told what to do and that was that,i would freak because i dont want to be controlled,i decide for myself,what i feel is right for me goes end of story and no one has the ability to make me change my mind.